For the most part I think being a single mother provides little deficits in my children’s lives. In fact, in our own unique situation, the benefits most definitely outweigh the downfalls.
Now and then things arise that remind of the simple fact that I am only one mother of two children. One mother that can only do so much and be stretched so thin. This upcoming week there is a field trip happening for each child: two kids, two trips; one day, one parent. How can this decision be made? There seems like no win-win solution.
Generally speaking I feel very capable of being the sole provider for my kids. I am proud of my strengths and aware of my weaknesses and overall confident in my abilities. But no parenting techniques or strategies will ever allow me to be in two places at once.
Times like these cause me to analyze, possibly analyze too much. Thoughts of what else my kids might be missing out on and other negative side effects they might face being raised by only one parent. Will they be held back because of this? Has it affected their development and will it impact them later in life?
All too often I let myself get dragged into a whirlwind of self doubt. Over all I know that any downfalls faced as a result of being raised by a single parent is far better than being raised in the environment we were in two years ago. I know this is best for both kids and much better for me.
As for the field trips, maybe I won’t go on either one. I could sit this one out, allow both kids an experience independent of the family and I can catch up on my require class readings or (gasp), maybe I’ll go for a run!
wife mother, happy life”